Legacy Building and Human Aid

Philanthropic Charity of The Month August 2014
Saint Jude Children's Hospital

"Not only must we be good, but we must also be good for something." 
- Henry David Thoreau

How do you release negativity so it doesn't reflect back on your reality?

Question:
How do you release negativity so it doesn't reflect back on your reality?
Response:

The main thing is to know that what you are releasing the negative feeling, and not reacting or retaliating with negativity to some incident. That is typically how negativity gets perpetuated. If you have some feeling of negativity, such as fear or anger, instead of forming words and actions from that feeling and directing it at someone, take a moment and acknowledge what you are feeling to yourself. Then take 3 full deep breaths where you feel the tension and stress in your body and mind release. If you have a private space, you can make an audible tone to accompany your exhalation that facilitates the expression of your feeling. Some people find that writing out their feelings is an effective way to safely release negative feelings. It can also be helpful to go for a walk in nature or workout in the gym or dance. All of these are good ways to clear charged feelings without hurting anyone or continuing the cycle of hurt.

18 Things To You Can Do To Change Your Outlook:

1. Have the desire: To become a positive person one must have a strong desire to be positive. And the desire will come only if you are convinced that becoming a positive person will enhance the quality of life. Positivity is like an aura, and you know you are a positive person when people start trusting you, random people become polite with you, colleagues at work respect your positive outlook and you start building rapport easily.

2. Believe in all possibilities: About what you can or cannot do. About what is possible or impossible. Don’t allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings and fly! Once you realize all is possible, the doors of limitation that were closed in your mind will open be connected to all those aspects of consciousness.

3. Be realistic: Do not try to become a saint. Becoming a positive person does not mean you can never have any negative emotion or encounter any negative situation. It is the overall attitude that matters and your reaction to every experience. Don’t get bogged down by failure, and disappointed when your expectations are not met. Understand that everything is of service to you. All experiences are neutral and our perception is what creates our positive or negative outlook.

4. Experience empowerment rather than criticism: Give up your constant need to complain and criticize about those things — people, situations, events that make you unhappy, sad and depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. When you criticize, you are passing self-judgement for something lacking in your life that you refuse to let go of. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking. For every opportunity you feel the inclination to criticize, try to think about how that specific situation is serving or benefiting others.

5. Experiment: Be a keen observer. Use everyday life incidents to see how you can manage them in a more positive manner. These will serve as perfect instances to turn your outlook more positive. For starters, contemplate how you could have better handled a situation by being less hostile and more indulgent. Come up with five ways that could have saved the day, and learn to take things at face value sometimes. Remember, your ability to trust the other person also reflects your genuineness.

6. Accept responsibility: Guilt is a trick of the mind. Accept responsibility for yourself, your life and your actions. You are response-able. You are an adult. You are account-able, meaning, with every action you take, you account for it. You chose to do it; you must accept the consequences of it and you did it all for a reason…to learn. If you continue to feel guilty, you stop learning.

7. Speech and body language: Try and make positive words a part of your daily lingo, and work on your body language in way that you come across as friendly and approachable. Look amused when something is amusing, laugh when something is funny, congratulate when credit is due, and give others a chance to narrate their side of the story. Never think you are the only interesting, knowing one around.

8. Be yourself: You are unique. Enjoy your uniqueness. Nobody in the world is just like you. Stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not just to make others like you. The moment you take off all your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real you, you will find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly.

9. Company: One way to becoming positive is to seek positive company as both positivity and negativity are infectious. If the people you spend most of your time with are grumpy or have a pessimistic standpoint, you’ll find yourself inadvertently mirroring the same emotions with others. In order to inculcate positivity it is imperative that your friend circle is a positive, energetic, and a happy bunch. You’ll find yourself carrying the same positivity everywhere you go.

10. Think here and now: The past and future often set us on a path of emotional turmoil. We often assume the past looked so much better than the present and the future looks so frightening, but you have to take into consideration the fact that the present moment is all you have and all you will ever have. The past you are now longing for — the past that you are now dreaming about — was ignored by you when it was present. Stop deluding yourself. Be present in everything you do and enjoy life. After all life is a journey not a destination. Have a clear vision for the future, prepare yourself, but always be present in the now.

11. Activities: Do not remain idle and brood. Take up positive activities with others or in isolation. Share a joke, narrate a pleasant incident, take part in sporting activities, go for a run in the evening after work, have healthy sex, and you’ll find yourself bubbling with positive energy.

12. Take it easy: Everyday life is bound to give you shocks. Be prepared to minimise impact and shrug it off. For instance, you may get too hassled everyday while driving to work or trying to park your car. When you accept the fact that certain things cannot be changed, you’ll be more at ease with yourself and those around too.

13. Drop your expectations: Let go of any expectations of yourself that will limit your growth. If you hold high expectations for how others should behave, you will often be disappointed if they do not represent themselves in the manner you expected. It is only your expectations of people that cause you to judge them which ultimately is a judgement of yourself. Far too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live. They live their lives according to what others think is best for them, they live their lives according to what their parents think is best for them, to what their friends, their enemies and their teachers, their government and the media think is best for them. They ignore their inner voice, that inner calling. They often forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they need. You have one life — this one right now — you must live it, own it, and especially don’t let other people’s opinions distract you from your path.

14. Maintain a diary: Instead of recounting all events of the day, filter out only the positive ones and make a note of them. It could be anything trivial from your bus arriving on time, your mom cooking a delicious breakfast, to remembering to pay the bills on time. When we look for positivity in the little things that make our lives worthwhile, we leave no room for negativity. Try consciously practising this for 10 days, and at the end of day ten when you read your diary back you’ll only have memories of all the good things that happened to you.

15. Meditate: Not only does it secrete happy hormones but also creates a sense of awareness within you. You will learn to control your breathing, and by way of it, control your mind from wandering. Every time you meditate, you feel a surge of positive energy through your body that calms your nerves, soothes your mind, elevates your mood, and not to mention enhances your level of tolerance.

16. Embrace change: Change is good. Change will help you move from A to B. Change will help you make improvements in your life and also the lives of those around you. Follow your bliss, embrace change — don’t resist it.

17. Re-invent your need to be right: There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong — wanting to always be right — even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. We love to right-fight. It’s just not worth it because the state of being right is all subjective with so many layers and perspectives of truth. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question:“Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?” ~ Wayne Dyer.

18. Say ‘thank you’: Thank god, thank your parents, friends, and thank yourself for all the hard work you did, for everything you achieved. Saying thank you frequently makes you humble, and a humble person is seldom cynical.

Chief Tecumseh

 -Tecumseh

So live your life that the fear of death can never enter your heart. Trouble no one about their religion;respect others in their view, and demand that they respect yours. Love your life, perfect your life, beautify all things in your life. Seek to make your life long and its purpose in the service of your people. Prepare a noble death song for the day when you go over the great divide.

Always give a word or a sign of salute when meeting or passing a friend, even a stranger, when in a lonely place. Show respect to all people and grovel to none.

When you arise in the morning give thanks for the food and for the joy of living. If you see no reason for giving thanks, the fault lies only in yourself. Abuse no one and no thing, for abuse turns the wise ones to fools and robs the spirit of its vision.

When it comes your time to die, be not like those whose hearts are filled with the fear of death, so that when their time comes they weep and pray for a little more time to live their lives over again in a different way. Sing your death song and die like a hero going home.

Manifesto

BOOK 1 The Existential Mind in a Thinking Universe

Preface

     Everything I say or can say to you, the reader is neither new nor original, as someone else has already said it or at least has had the thought of it; maybe in a different form through a different method, perhaps in a different place in history or a different moment in time, instance or lifetime. Nothing is new, for all ideas are already manifest. They lay dormant in the subconscious and the eternal existence of the cosmos, in divinity within us all. Therefore all these thoughts merely await for the retrieval of content, a spark and igniter, a catalyst that triggers a response of that unknown knowledge which is already known not in a particular way, owned to a few but available to anyone who seeks such knowledge for everything is already known; whether you know it or not. Thus under this premise it is that I do not attempt to reinvent the wheel. The wheel has already been invented I merely set forth to put my spin on it.

      A Life Coach is not a profession that can be defined in a simple statement and life coaching itself is not an exact science and is as varied complex as human nature itself. Add to this the fact that credentials, knowledge, techniques, philosophy and approaches to coaching vary greatly from one individual to another. The truth of the matter is that all paths lead to the same higher calling of love prosperity health and abundance and the constant feeling of success and happiness.

Elite athletes, politicians, actors, business executives and many more have Personal Life Coaches Why? Simply put, because coaching works:

*Increased Productivity: Professional coaching explicitly targets maximizing potential and in doing this unlocks latent sources of productivity and effectiveness. At the heart of coaching is a creative and thought provoking process that supports individuals to confidently pursue new ideas and alternative solutions with greater resilience in the face of growing complexity and uncertainty.

*Creates Positive People: In the face of uncertainty and third party factors such as work force reductions and economic uncertainty. Expectations remain very high therefore restoring self confidence and self trust to face the challenges is critical to meet organizational demand.

*Return on Investment: The coach-client relation generates learning and clarity for forward action with a commitment to clear measurable outcomes. Creating greater productivity and realization of full potential.

     What I do is nothing more than to facilitate the act of getting in touch with one’s own soul, mental training, spiritual awakening and tuning oneself with the natural forces of the cosmos.  I serve a higher purpose I am both the perpetual teacher and a student. I am a guide! Your path awaits, my destiny calls, and in a harmonies ecstasy we shall both meet in the center. For your enjoyment and spiritual bliss this is a manifesto of love and for love that will undoubtedly change your life… if you let it!